Navigating the dating scene in my twenties has been a bit odd, because it seems as if I'm walking a thin line between wanting to show my interest without looking like I'm desperate for love.

And as a self proclaimed crazy girl, it's kind of hard to find a guy who's okay with my nonstop texts, voice that always sounds like I'm screaming and picky eating habits.

It’s not just physical: you two are in serious like. The First Time You See Each Other Really Drunk You accompany them to a party, they overdo it, you take them home, they get sick, then sad, then wild, then pass out…and you still like them the next morning? Talking about each other’s exes and dating histories shows that you care about a person enough to hear all the gory details of their dating life. Seeing Each Other Sick Being sick means feeling tired, vulnerable, crabby, and gross.

Letting someone see you when you feel that way, (and conversely not being turned-off by seeing someone that way) is a sign that things are getting serious. The First Time You Just Go To Sleep We’ve already established that sharing a bed with someone sucks. The First Fight You’re comfortable enough to express discontent or frustration with each other — and committed enough to not just walk away.

With dating meaning so many different things to so many different people, how is one to weigh the relationship without officially defining it?

You should try to be honest with yourself if you see red flags early on that indicate that he is not truly interested in going further with you.

However, there are ways to tell if things are leading to a relationship, or simply just friends with benefits.

Dating lately for me has been kind of overwhelming.

Every time I meet a guy the same thought crosses my mind, "He might be the future father of my kids, he might be a guy I yell 'fuck you' to across a street in a couple of weeks." Fifty-fifty chance.