Something we can’t hide and something we refuse to keep at home.Something we won’t check at baggage claim or give up at customs.The Swiss study, romantically entitled "Optimizing the marriage market: An application of the linear assignment model," offers solutions to life's biggest problem.

I've reigned that in with good results but I want a man who actually likes my intelligence. This isn't the first time this question has shown up in the comments of this blog - or in my e-mail.However, in August I moved here for grad school, and since then I have been getting more and more annoyed and resentful of the differences between us — I have to walk him through stuff that makes perfect sense to me, he doesn't read the newspaper or care about politics, and frankly I always thought I would marry a man that could be my equal. Should I ignore the nagging feelings and get over myself?He has a lot of other good qualities and I do care for him deeply, but the more I think about my future, and having to be the leader in the relationship, the less sure I am about our compatibility. — Grad Student Dear Grad Student, It's great that you aren't ignoring those nagging feelings.Regular sufferers here will know that this subject fascinates me beyond the usual level of engagement. Essentially, it involved selecting the 38th woman you meet.And now, in a study due to be published in the April 16 issue of the European Journal of Operational Research, science begins to take even more uncertainty out of the marriage principle.Unfortunately, for women, intelligence many times hinders our travels and keeps us from the promise land.Because, for all you bright and educated women out there, what you feel is real… The popular saying “ignorance is bliss” doesn’t exactly cover the broad spectrum of woes women feel as they sit alone Friday nights with no one to discuss Nietzsche or read lines from Proust with.At most, it is a reliable source of advice for women who want to improve their chances with the opposite sex.I am a highly intelligent woman, though not a genius by any means.I've dated countless women and it has always amazed me how little they know about men.If nothing else, this blog is an outlet for voicing my astonishment at the typical female's ignorance of the male mindset.However, men my age tell me that intelligence is not a turn-on for them.They say that as long as a woman is "reasonably intelligent" that is what they need...I, like many others, am looking for science to control the world. I am therefore leaping as if it were February 29 to discover that scientists in Europe have finally come up with the perfect formula for the ultimate human condition: marriage. Now it's time for the scientific to become beatific.